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[comiskeybum]

I'd like to take the time to publicly apologize to Sam and Sarge and everyone else in a certain community. I won't specify which thread because of sensitive material.

I just want to say that I enjoyed the friendships made there and I understand if some of you never talk to me again.

Again, I sincerely apologize.

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[livinginkaos]

Comiskeybum,
I wanted to let you know that your apology is noted. I would say that it is going to take some time before things are truly clear as to how everyone moves forward. Everyone needs to use this as a learning experience, myself included. Expectations and responsibilities sometimes clash and choosing can be difficult. Keep your chin up, weather the storm then make wise decisions in your next course.

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[comiskeybum]

Comiskeybum,
I wanted to let you know that your apology is noted. I would say that it is going to take some time before things are truly clear as to how everyone moves forward. Everyone needs to use this as a learning experience, myself included. Expectations and responsibilities sometimes clash and choosing can be difficult. Keep your chin up, weather the storm then make wise decisions in your next course.

RAZR HD Dev

Thank you for your kind words and wisdom. Please tell everyone that if and when I I am allowed to return that I will not be the source of further drama. Matter of fact I probably won't post as much, at least at first.

I understand the error I made and anger I have caused and I don't want to cause the community any hurt or myself and my family.

I have too many things to do, like raise my two year old daughter, to be the source of drama, so I intend not to be.

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[Sleehrat00]

Kaos speaks truth, Comiskey. Life is fashioned by the choices that we make but what makes life hard at times is dealing with the repercussions of those very same choices.

I too believe that we all, yourself, Kaos, me, everyone else who has awareness of the situation, have much to learn from this situation. To steal yet another phrase from the Batman franchise, "The night is darkest just before the dawn." As time passes, we will all see how things play out, how people accept the apology, and how things change from the fallout. Right now is the period of darkness, or as my small group Bible study calls it "living in the in-between" - the time between action and resolution.

Keep your chin up and learn from this, as we all should. I think that this community can be a forgiving one and grace can and will be shown. That said, unlike grace, which is given, trust must be earned and that may be the hardest fallout from this for you specifically.

But even with that, the good news is that trust can be re-earned most of the time! It can certainly take some time. At that point in time though you'll be faced with another important choice, the choice with which you are faced now: what do I do then? Think about it, pray about it, seek council about it, and the answer will come.

[Dave12308]

Thank you for your kind words and wisdom. Please tell everyone that if and when I I am allowed to return that I will not be the source of further drama. Matter of fact I probably won't post as much, at least at first.

I understand the error I made and anger I have caused and I don't want to cause the community any hurt or myself and my family.

I have too many things to do, like raise my two year old daughter, to be the source of drama, so I intend not to be.

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We all make mistakes man, and i'm sure many of us have had huge lapses in judgement before. Which this honestly was. As long as this is a learning experience for you, it will not be for nothing. Sometimes, we learn valuable lessons by screwing up. And sometimes, that lesson involves re-earning the trust you once had, as the others have said.

My advice to you? Maybe you were TOO addicted to that one thread and it snowballed out of control. So, while a decision is made on how to move forward, I say don't look at it as a negative. Take a break, and spend more time with your family.

And, in the future, ensure that your actions are in line with what you would teach your 2 year old daughter and the way you would want HER to conduct herself. If she did something wrong, you would want her to come clean before it caused a huge problem, right? We're like family here man, what you SHOULD have done was discuss the problem privately with one of the powers-that-be as soon as it became an issue. I'm 100% sure that had you done this, something would have been worked out and we wouldn't be in this position right now.

However, what has been done cannot be undone. I was raised to believe that NOTHING is a complete negative experience as long as we take something away from it and learn and grow from it, though. Don't dwell on it or let it get you down, just move forward and start regaining that trust. And just remember, it's really NOT worth all of this for 15 minutes of 'internet fame'. I'd be willing to bet that looking back on it, you're probably kicking yourself for not using that time for something more productive.

Your making this thread, to me, is a step in the right direction; though. I am thinking that it wasn't an easy thing for you to do. And do know one thing. Even though I felt as angry and betrayed as anyone else, I am still willing to consider you a friend. Just keep doing the right thing and that will not change.

Above all, get out there and have fun with your kid, man! And set a proper example. If you do that, the trust will be regained. I think that sometimes, we do things on the internet that we would never do in real life. But in a tight community like this one, it IS real life as we all genuinely care about one another. Just remember, we're not just a bunch of 0's and 1's here, we are all real people with real emotions. So do try to conduct yourself online in the same fashion you would in day to day life. That is the best advice I can give you. I think that deep down, you ARE a good person who made a terrible mistake.

So, like Sleehrat00 said, keep your chin up and learn from this experience. I, for one, look forward to the "new" cosmickeybum; who I am sure will be a valuable member of the community in the future. My boss at work sometimes hires students he catches doing things on our network that are a betrayal of trust. He finds that oftentimes, they end up being his most loyal employees. As they say, what goes around comes around, so if you make this a positive thing in the future, good things will happen for you.

[LDubs]

Cb while this is a good start, its going to take a long long time to gain back trust. Pretty sure you just got caught up in the moment and the excitement or maybe even the thrill, but you crossed the line when you knew what you were doing could have consequences related to peoples livelihood and continued to do it anyway. Maybe you were addicted or something but maybe you could have stopped, or come clean, or something. Maybe a full confession on that other site where you wreaked havoc is in order too...were there more?

I too am willing to forgive, but not forget. As Dave said, spend some time with the family and reflect. Trust can be rebuilt over time.

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[jayrod]

I debated about posting on this. I am not the kind of person who is unable to forgive but I do have a pretty good memory. I was very shocked when I found out and like many was also upset .While I agree that this is a step in the right direction, I would hope that you would rectify this on a larger scale... and without getting into much here, I think you know what I mean. I can understand the thrill you got... everyone has a desire to feel "important" but if certain factors were not present, someone else could have gotten very screwed. I know that this is just a forum and in the grand scheme doesn't mean much but since we all have used it as a way to just kill time, learn stuff and meet other people who are doing the same, in some ways we have become a family. What you did was unacceptable no matter how you look at it but just like" real" families, things can get better in time.

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[comiskeybum]

This is what I plan to do.

Next time droid life posts an article about the x phone I am going to issue an apology and confession in the disqus comments.

I can't do this in an old article or one that is not discussing the x phone because people reading won't care or know what I'm talking about and People won't be reading an old article in mass.

Please forward this statement to the community and please ask Sarge to inform me as to whether or not he would like me to credit his name in my confession not. I WILL NOT be referencing the thread unless asked to do so.

Again, please forward this to the community.

Thank you again for your thoughts and kindness.

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[Dave12308]

Ieveryone has a desire to feel "important" but if certain factors were not present, someone else could have gotten very screwed. I know that this is just a forum and in the grand scheme doesn't mean much but since we all have used it as a way to just kill time, learn stuff and meet other people who are doing the same, in some ways we have become a family. What you did was unacceptable no matter how you look at it but just like" real" families, things can get better in time.

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Let me add my thoughts to this about the "important" thing. Cosmic, you never needed to do this $#!+ to be "important".

You have a 2 year old daughter who I would be willing to bet thinks her Daddy is one of the most important people on the face of the earth.

That's WAY more important than internet fame to me, my friend. Just remember, you ARE important. The most IMPORTANT influence in a little girl's life.

[johnlgalt]

The Interwebs. Where ordinary people can be (in)famous. You're not the first to fall, and you will not be the last. Time does heal old wounds - time. You can be healed, and I'm willing to bet most of the people spitting (or thinking) vitriolic thoughts at you will have calmed down and (mostly) forgiven you as well.

I'm turning 42 in less than a month. I just earned my Masters 2 months ago. I earned my first bachelor's in 2010. That after having been 'diagnosed' with a genius level IQ in the first grade and blowing off the SAT and still scoring a 1440 out of 1600 (this is back when 1600 was the max, not 2400 or whatever it is now...) I partied, drank my arse off and had no intention of doing anything worthwhile with my life - I sold my computer repair and Tier I and Tier II helpdesk support services to every job I had in the 90s and early 2000s based upon knowledge alone, not even a single certification (and I could walk my way through several lower cert s like A+ as a Zombie and still pass them).

To make matters worse, in 2000 my g/f at the time (and two other women) was raped and I, along with 9? 10? others, were locked into a freezer at the restaurant I worked at. Drove me over the edge and I drank. A lot.

I drove a lot of pain and hurt into my parents' hearts for a very long time.

They've never forgotten, but time has repaired a lot of the wounds. Going back to school (for the 5th time, no less) and actually earning degrees, 3 in 3 years, has made for a much better situation with me - sometimes there is a backlash, but it's a lot better now than it was 10 years ago.

You just have to be the one that makes sure this never happens again - we can watch you and warn you and scour the interwebs and you can either comply or be deceptive and completely adopt a new persona. It's your choice.

I learned my lesson - and I hope you learn yours. I'm at least spared the agony of having brought all this onto any wife or kids - you've got way more incentive than I did to turn this around. Here's t hoping you do.

I debated actually posting all this info - I'm usually a very private person, and while I don't have anywhere near the respect of the community that Sarge and Sam command(eer ), people know me around different forums, and I strive to keep my reputation clean as possible. I decided that I'm going to take a chance and side with Sarge on this - no hate, no vitriol from me. Just words that I hope will truly inspire you.

[Staf_in_Wah]

I do take back wishing erectile dysfunction on you.

We all make mistakes. We would be lying if we said we didn't. The key is learning from them.

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[Dave12308]

I do take back wishing erectile dysfunction on you.

We all make mistakes. We would be lying if we said we didn't. The key is learning from them.

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Very well said, like most of your posts. Learning is a life long journey, and sometimes we have to learn the hard way. But as long as it was a learning experience, then it was not for nothing.

[jtapczynski]

Very well said, like most of your posts. Learning is a life long journey, and sometimes we have to learn the hard way. But as long as it was a learning experience, then it was not for nothing.

I've always learned the most from my mistakes than from my successes. I've been fond of saying that I only learn from my mistakes and by the time I'm dead I should be a f'ng genius!

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[ReservedName]

I do take back wishing erectile dysfunction on you
Lol wtf did I stumble on

[comiskeybum]

Google Now is scary and creepy. It knows where I'm going tomorrow and How I'm getting there. I didn't input anything, it pulled this information from my saved e mail and calendar.

I swear we are living with skynet.



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[transmissiontech]

Confucius Say ...a person that makes no mistakes does not doing anything....we all live a learn by our mistakes some have more severe out comes than others..Good Luck and stay safe.

[comiskeybum]

Sooooooo...... Yeah, what's up everyone? Anyone out there?

*sits in the corner lonely *

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[tw1n5nak35]

Google Now is scary and creepy. It knows where I'm going tomorrow and How I'm getting there. I didn't input anything, it pulled this information from my saved e mail and calendar.

I swear we are living with skynet.



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Hahahahaha I knew skynet is real and not planning your day but the end of the world

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[Staf_in_Wah]

Sooooooo...... Yeah, what's up everyone? Anyone out there?

*sits in the corner lonely *

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Nope.

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[johnlgalt]

I'm here - not as often as I'd like to be but I am lol.